The foundation of my practice is the person-centred approach I used as a university and hospital chaplain. I try my utmost to understand what you are thinking and feeling, and to reflect it back to you. I don't hide behind a professional facade, and I let you be the expert on yourself. I do my best to make you feel respected and heard.
Once you feel safe enough to open up to me, we will use the powerful and effective techniques of cognitive behavioural therapy. What are the messages you tell yourself when you are depressed or anxious, or in some other unpleasant state? Often they go right back to your childhood, possibly to childhood trauma. You tell yourself "I'm a failure," "I can't do anything right," "It's hopeless." Negative thoughts like this go round and round in your head, and only make things worse. In fact, you can actually think yourself into an unpleasant frame of mind. How do you stop doing this?
I might invite you to reflect on situations where those messages do not apply. I might help you come up with positive messages you know are true. I might wonder whether you would tell a friend in a similar situation those things. Are you horrified at the thought? Then stop doing it to yourself! Find positive, healing messages to tell yourself instead.
It's not easy, of course. You may have been mentally beating yourself up all your life. But together we can develop tools to take you out of your negative state of mind today and in the future.